So, I have been unemployed for about 5 days now, and ever since then nothing has been right between me and my girlfriend. She started with having this issue, not sure what it was, but all in all i was getting the silent treatment. I did nothing wrong to loose my job it just is something that happens. Anyhow as the days progress our "anger" kept getting the best of us. We got into a big fight yesterday, about me smoking "my stuff", ok we can play this game, i fought with you about your drinking with minors and shit all the time, so now its my turn in the "hot seat". Fair enough, I will take this with a grain of salt. well my breaking point was tonight in the car. It all started with me not driving her car if I couldn't get out of the alley where it is parked. Ok I told her I would take my car, no big deal. Then it turned into me not driving her car after smoking. Didnt plan on it, wasnt going to smoke. It started a screaming match in the car, with one of my best friend's in the back seat! I told her 6-7 times that I got the point and I would take my own car regardless of what is going on, and to drop it, i have had it with the fighting. The last thing she really said to me was "Sam I need a really long break" and all I could say back was "Ok I'm not making you stay, you can go if you want too." I'm tired of the fighting, *on average every other week*, Im sick of the empty threats, I'm just tired!

any advice?!

I am so sorry that I didn't read this when you posted it so long ago. Unfortunately, usually there were already cracks in the wall before the big storm, so please don't think that everything would have been OK if you just hadn't lost your job. It just sped up the process.

It's sad for a relationship to go south, but <em>usually </em>it really is for the best. Don't dwell, chin up, and move forward...partnered or alone, life will be better.

with relationships there is a fine line---we always forget why we loved that person in the first place--so it becomes old --its like a car almost in comparrison---we drive it we repair it along the way to keep it running---till eventually, we find our selfs complaining that we need a new one--- sometimes the work we put into it becomes un noticed or aggravating---although with repairs comes agravation but in that lies something simple--- it works-- sometimes our relationships work when things are in its best form-- but when trials come up its easier to want to leave to find another path becose we get tired-- but never forget the reason you loved someone --- just try to decearn weather you need to love them from a distance or not--my job tells me i cant tell people what to do only try to guide their hearts to see what they all ready know... nina--much love and light on your path.. and hers