I have to admit, I am a little interested in BDSM..but all the books and information I hear scares me.
Does all BDSM involve whips, chains and pain? Please help.
Bondage and Discipline, Domination and Submission, Sadism and Masochism...contrary to popular belief, BDSM is not all over-the-top.
There are many aspects to BDSM and is often misunderstood by many.
Something as simple as using a necktie to bind your lovers hands, or your own, together is an act of BDSM. For your first time, tie them loosely...you can work your way up as you become comfortable with the idea. Blindfolds can also be a fun addition to this.
Ever smack you girlfriend's ass and enjoyed it? BDSM baby! Just be sure to be symmetrical and spank each side equally. No one is saying you have to wail on her. Start out with a few the first time. You can increase the number and intensity of them as you explore this over time.
There are all kinds of ways to have fun and explore BDSM for the beginner. Spanking and whipping, restraints and blindfolds...even candle wax play are only a few of the ways to enjoy BDSM. It is all about using the experience of power and pain to create sexual tension, pleasure...and release!
Remember, start slow and do your homework. I highly recommend you check out Mistress Rowynn's videos at http://www.askmistressrowynn.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=category&id=41&Itemid=183. She is very knowledgeable and explains everything in a non-intimidating manner. She won't scare you away and I guarantee you won't be disappointed.
Lots of Love, Lola