Why canâ€™t things happen like in the movies? The Girl Next Door is still on of my favorites because itâ€™s kind of what I wish my life was like. I donâ€™t know if this was the creators intent, but a few lessons came out of that movieâ€¦â€¦ to me anyway.
â€œWhatâ€™s the craziest thing youâ€™ve done latelyâ€ â€“ sometimes itâ€™s just nice to break out of the structured world/box that I live in. What is the craziest think Iâ€™ve done lately? Nothing! Iâ€™ve been too worried about trying to be an adult and trying to live up to everyoneâ€™s standards of maturity that I havenâ€™t had the chance to unwind. People can get so caught up into meeting the expectations that everyone has set for them that they donâ€™t have time to figure out why theyâ€™re still unhappy. Something is missing. With all the academic success, friends, even family support, you forget if youâ€™re doing it because itâ€™s what you want to accomplish, or itâ€™s because itâ€™s what makes them proud of you. You work so hard to keep up with their expectationsâ€¦..what have you done for yourself? Have you taken a moment to remember that there is more to life than school, work, and grades? There is also life! Enjoying it, living it, not being afraid to take those chances that seem a little unusual or even a bit out of your comfort zone. Not to spite your friends and family, but because you can â€“ and not being so structured is actually healthy for you. Laughter and joy gets you through life. Makes you more confident, positive, and a better person all around.
â€œWhat is moral fiber?â€ Is it really always doing the right thing? In my mind, itâ€™s holding on to that one belief, that one ideal, and no matter the opposition â€“ you fight for that thing you believe is right. I didnâ€™t get it when Matthew first said it, but after I thought about it, it makes sense. You find the one belief, philosophy, ideal, that in your mind you deem is the right thing. Whether is be a friendship with someone who is different, a relationship that others believe wouldnâ€™t work out, a religion that has unique practices, a mindset that people believe is unacceptable in society, whatever the object is, you hold on to it. Then with your heart, mind, and soul, you defend it. Itâ€™s not about being the most righteous or moral person, but rather being willing to fight for something you believe. When you look at it, isnâ€™t a moral an ideal that is right in your mind? Not stealing, not committing adultery, not murdering, being open and accepting of others, all ideals people have set in their mind frame as the right thing to do. What makes the other ideals part of moral fiber is the word â€œfiberâ€. Essential for living, something a little more personal and not society based, an ideal that you hold close to you, that you see right in your mind, and by defending it ~ the act of defending it ~ helps the things in your life progress. All situations are looked at from your moral fiber, which is built from your experiences and teachings. So moral (a thought or object that is right to you) fiber (the sum or your experiences and teachings in which you use to evaluate all the situations that arise in your life; the essential/fiber/bane of your existence) is taking a personal thought and defending it against all odds.
â€œDude, am I ugly?â€ Ok, so I didnâ€™t really learn anything from this, but Klitz is who I feel like a lot. He wondered why he couldnâ€™t get a girl, if it was his personality or his looks. His self esteem in that area was a little down. It took the one girl to say â€œ I think youâ€™re really cuteâ€ to boose his self esteem. In a way, maybe he was just looking for acceptance and love. Just to be liked in return. When they sat around (towards the end of the movie) to watch the sex-ed video, he smiled huge because all the students thought the guy in the tape was â€œamazingâ€ Made him feel like â€œhey, Iâ€™m cool. People like meâ€ I think, I might be waiting for the one person to say a simple sentence to turn my thoughts around. Trying not to depend on it, I mean it would be nice, but that boost is what Iâ€™m trying to get. Klitz was very shyâ€¦â€¦â€¦..so am Iâ€¦â€¦â€¦.. so, I guess Iâ€™m just waiting for someone to come to meâ€¦..
â€œIs the juice worth the squeezeâ€ Relating back to moral fiber. Was all that you went through to defend that person/ideal/object worth all the trouble you went through to defend it? Not talking about because you learned something from it (because that could be either good or bad) but rather has what you have gained or what you feel now, far outweigh the emotions you had going through the â€œdefensiveâ€ period? If youâ€™ve gained something to make your life happier, more fulfilling, more enriching, and more positive, then the juice was definitely worth the squeeze.